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When your child's feelings arrive

When you finish, you'll see a map like this

An example with made-up answers, so you can see what this map draws.

What you do when a child's feelings arrive
Makes roommore oftenBoth usedoftenNeitherused oftenWaves off,stops moreMiddle groundLikely makesroom forfeelingsRarely makesroom forfeelingsRarelywaves offOftenwaves off
Who it's for
Your child is 3 to 10, and when their feelings suddenly get big, you often don't have time to think how to respond.
What you'll explore
How much you make room for feelings, how much you play them down, stop them, or feel bad along with them, and one more sentence to have ready next time.
How it works
6 everyday situations, each with 4 reactions. Pick how likely you'd be to respond that way this time. Skip situations that aren't like your home.
How long
About 6 minutes
What gets saved
Nothing. This page only shows what the map looks like when it's done.

This map is available in Chinese. The English version is being translated.

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